Now- I'm no scientist, but even I could understand the following fact. Did you know that feeling gratitude produces dopamine AND boosts serotonin? Dopamine & serotonin are things (neurotransmitters) in your brain that promote happiness & well-being. The mere act of trying to think of things you're grateful for activates the right parts of your brain- this is SCIENCE...& you can't argue with science. I've tried, & it didn't end well.
- Retract those claws
Okay, say you're online (as we often are), & someone offends you. Or perhaps you've found out someone is gossiping about you. It's in most of our collective natures to bite back & defend ourselves...which inevitably leads to drama. You don't need that! Solution? Remember this expression, "in my defenseless my safety lies". At the risk of sounding like a hippie- you know your truth, & you know THE truth- and so will the people that matter. Why waste energy fighting back? Everything passes, & by saying nothing, you'll gain strength...& the gossipers will gain nothing. I promise!
Have a good, hard look at the people you're choosing to surround yourself with. When you're younger it seemed necessary to have HEAPS of friends, didn't it? However, if you can count on one hand the number of amazing friends you have in your life, you're doing extremely well. Think quality over quantity! Ideally, the people that surround you will take you as you are (good & bad), will want to see you succeed, & you'll just *know* they'll be there for you when you need them...because you'll do the same for them. Life is too short to put up with anything less.
- Embrace this logical process:
As a rule, I don't think I'm a very logical person- I tend to be quite reactive. But when push comes to shove, I use a ridiculously logical technique that helps me EVERY time. Here's what to do:
1- Identify what the main issue is that's troubling you.
2- Figure out (& tell yourself) exactly WHY it's causing you stress.
3- Think of 3 or 4 different solutions- go nuts- just think of some.
4- Now- think about what the probable outcome would be of each solution.
5- The answer will be clear- or at least a little more obvious. You can breathe easy, because seriously, you're in a much clearer place than you were beforehand!
With life being so hectic, & having rapidly shifting priorities- spending time with your friends can slowly diminish...if you let it. Numerous studies have shown that being around friends is highly beneficial for your mental wellbeing- & all you need to do is schedule those times in! Make it a priority, grab a delicious bottle of bubbles from The Sisters wine, & CELEBRATE your friendship. Trust me, that sort of quality time will cure what ails you You can also have lots of hugs if that's your vibe- while Facebook is great, the *poke* button just doesn't compare (plus, let's face it- it's kind of creepy).
- Spread some joy & appreciation
Making other people feel happy & appreciated is a surefire way to fast track your own happiness. I've read studies where businesses (HUGE businesses like Facebook & Microsoft) have had their employees send a 2 minute email to someone they worked with thanking or praising them- every day, to a different person, for a month. As you can imagine, productivity & morale went through the roof! Imagine if we all did this...& it's so easy. Send that email, that letter, that card, or take part in the campaign being run by The Sisters wine. All you need to do is choose a girlfriend who you think does extraordinary things every day & post on their social profile saying “I just wanted to take a moment to tell you.." (tag their name using @, & then write the reason why you support them- & tell them they are extraordinary!) Then just add the hashtag #ASistersMoment. Perfect!
"Everything is interconnected. Gratitude improves sleep. Sleep reduces pain. Reduced pain improves your mood. Improved mood reduces anxiety, which improves focus and planning. Focus and planning help with decision making. Decision making further reduces anxiety and improves enjoyment. Enjoyment gives you more to be grateful for, which keeps that loop of the upward spiral going. Enjoyment also makes it more likely you'll exercise and be social, which, in turn, will make you happier."
Alex Korb, UCLA Neurophysicist (aka, a very wise human)
With all of that being said- I'd love to hear YOUR tips for living a happy life...because there can never be enough, right?? Everyone that comments below will go in the draw to win an AMAZING prize-pack worth over $100
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Thank you so much to The Sisters wine for making this post possible, & much love & thanks to Melanie Jean from Dreamstate for some of the beautiful imagery <3